This is a fact. This is a fact which most people avoid seeing or accepting. Death and endings are not ‘wrong’ nor ‘bad’. Yes, they are usually very painful, but cannot to be avoided. Death and endings should rather be seen as an integral part of the transitory and ever so brief richness of the human dance we call ‘life’.
Death is not the opposite of life, but rather the other side of birth. All that’s born in time must, in turn, die in time. In this dimension of dualistic experience, one cannot have a one-sided coin, nor an inside without an outside, or a valley without a mountain, nor birth without death.
However, it to realise this: only that which is born dies; that which is never born, never dies.
The true essence that we love in another, and that which animates our many bodies, (the body we are born with is not the body we die with, but is exchanged many, many times in one single lifetime), was never born and can never die. Energy can neither be created nor destroyed. You, and everyone you love, are that timeless pure energy which I term Presence and which others call Spirit.
Think on this: Each and every wave on the Ocean is birthed and shortly thereafter dissipate into the sands of time. This is an inevitable fact. However, the Ocean remains, ever present, and never dies. The Ocean is the substance and source-animation for every single wave. Without the Ocean, no wave could exist.
The pain of grief can be alleviated by refocusing of our attention on the ever-present Ocean, rather than on the dissolution of the transitory wave-form.
Death offers the opportunity for something new to be born. With every painful departure of someone you love, either by death or by the ending of a relationship, a new and potentially more advanced version of ‘you’ is born.